Move Outta My Way, You’re Blocking My Flow

February 6, 2014 in Intuition, Meditation

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I am in the process of making a decision about studying life coaching. I am overwhelmed with the range of options including course duration, content, presentation style and top of that trying to figure out the logistics of how!

You can see the stress I am creating as I try to control the perfect outcome.

It sounds crazy, backwards and hard; so much so the fun and excitement is taken away.

But how many of us control a situation or decision and end up nowhere because we become lost in the details? Some us of may give up on our passion or goal, others of us will fight through then reach the end realising there was no love and joy in the journey.

Last night at a workshop/meditation we were guided into receiving messages from our higher self. For me a loud and clear voice said, “PATIENCE.”

For those who don’t know me, patience is not one of my strong points. I am a go-getter. As a Capricorn I continue to strive to reach goals, push my limits and a take-action now kind-of-girl. Read the rest of this entry →

A Way You Can Show Compassion Today

November 14, 2013 in Compassion

“The ultimate source of a happy life is warm-heartednes­s. This means extending to others the kind of concern we have for ourselves. On a simple level we find that if we have a compassionate heart we naturally have more friends. And scientists today are discovering that while anger and hatred eat into our immune system, warm-heartednes­s and compassion are good for our health”
Dalai Lama XIV 

The theme this month on Just Love Yourself is compassion, so continuing with the topic I thought I would share with you a post I posted on our travel blog Matt and Jill Went Up The Hill.

Matt & Kanthan

On our travels we have met some truly inspirational people. One of those special friends we made is Kanthan from Sri Lanka.

So, what makes Kanthan so inspirational?

He grew up and survived in a war.

He is a Tamil and it was this ethnic group being wiped out. We clearly remember a story he told us when he was a young kid. He was out one evening, a very unique experience as you couldn’t even go to the outside toilet alone at night, or if you did it had to be with an adult. So, on this particular night he was out with his dad & uncle and the terrorists attempted to kidnap him. Luckily he slipped away and ran like a lightning bolt to safety. He was extremely lucky to escape as he had friends in his class at school who disappeared and never returned. They were likely dead or trained to be walking and killing on the streets with AK-47.

Another heart wrenching story of his was the 2004 tsunami.

Kanthan was working at the time on the beachside in Arugum Bay.  With no notice, as with the entire country, the water receded. I am not sure how he knew to run, but he grabbed his younger sister by the hand and they sprinted. A wave caught them smashing Kanthan into a coconut tree and losing his sisters grip. She unfortunately died. Kanthan with a broken shoulder climbed up the tree and stayed up there seven hours until the water receded. He spent months in hospital due to surgery and complications.

What truly inspires us is that after his shoulder healed he learnt how to swim. Most people left the coast or didn’t go into the ocean, but Kanthan did the opposite. And true to his inspiring nature, after a few short months of learning how to swim he learnt how to surf! As a beginner surfer myself and someone who knows how to swim, I personally found learning how to surf terrifying some days. I can only imagine how he must have felt!

Kanthan surfing
Kanthan surfing

We were lucky to meet Kanthan as he was the cook, manager, cleaner and host of the rural, coastal property we stayed at last year in Sri Lanka. We spent 3 months with Kanthan, thoroughly enjoying his company and blessed with his friendship. We surfed together daily, and played cards most evenings. For dinner we would watch him cook our dinner, learning how to make traditional Sri Lankan curries. But the thing we loved most about Kanthan was is humble, kind nature, and he always had a smile on his face.

Kanthan cooking us dinner
Kanthan cooking us dinner
Kanthan & Jill on a party wave
Kanthan & Jill on a party wave

We recently found out Kanthan has been in a head on collision with a tuk tuk, with him on a motorbike. From what I understand he has a fractured femur. Apparently he has been waiting one month for surgery!  We hear he may get lucky this week.

Kanthan works seasonally, and is a main financial contributor for his parents, siblings and self. This accident not only hurts him physically but his family financially.

We will be sending Kanthan some money via bank transfer to help support him and his family. I am now asking if you too could find it in your hearts to help our special friend. Any amount would truly be appreciated.

Donate to Kanthan

We will be doing an international bank transfer on 28 November 2013, so please give all donations by then.

You can donate any amount by pressing the ‘Donate’ button below via a secure transfer with PayPal. You do not need to be registered with Paypal to donate to Kanthan, you can donate with your Visa, MasterCard or a bank transfer.

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With a big hug, we thank you for your help!!!

Matt, Kanthan & Jill
Matt, Kanthan & Jill

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What to do when you are judging your flabby tummy: A guide to self-compassion

November 5, 2013 in Self Love

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How many of us are truly compassionate towards ourselves? Some of you may say, “yes I am a compassionate person”, but are you compassionate towards yourself?

Do you show yourself compassion when you are judging your flabby tummy hanging over your jeans, or when you made an inappropriate comment to your friend, or when you didn’t get the job?

Do you give yourself understanding and love when you totally f*#k up? Or do you tell yourself I am worthless, not good enough or stupid?

The negative judgements and criticisms are sometimes soft whispers, and other times they are so loud you can’t hearing anything else. If you are not conscious of them you can start to believe them.

They can make you feel lousy, alone and even self-hatred. Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

Inspirational Songs that will Rock Your Socks!

October 16, 2013 in Inspiration by Jill

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Music has a profound effect on a person’s mood. Cheerful, upbeat songs can make a person feel energised, whereas heavy metal can darken a person’s aura.

What music are you listening to today? Or any other day?

Here is a list of my favourite inspirational songs that reflect happy energised states, to re-energise when needed, or just because it feels great!

Smell the Rain – Genevieve Chadwick

People Should Smile More – Newton Faulkner

Woman on a Mission – Gabrielle Cilmi

I am Woman – Helen Reddy

Beautiful Day – U2

Spending My Soul – Kim Churchill Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

7 Ways To Overcome Self-Doubt

October 8, 2013 in Affirmations, Inspiration, Intuition, Meditation by Jill

Everyone has experienced self-doubt from time-to-time, even successful business owners and elite athletes. If self-doubt is not dealt with it can leave you sabotaging your own success, feeling powerless and even filling you with regret.

This is one emotional negative mind set you will want to triumph. Here are 7 tips to defeat self-doubt.

1. Be aware of your self-doubt

Acknowledging you are lacking in confidence is a great strength to possess. Growth will come by being aware of whatever you are feeling. By denying your self-doubt you are only covering it up with a blanket. It will then fester like rotten mould until one day the smell is so putrid that it is too overwhelming to deal with. So, say hi to your self-doubt, and/or tell someone you trust that you feel this way. Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

Is the grass really greener on the other side?

October 2, 2013 in Gratitude, Present Moment by Jill

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I know the feeling too well, seeking beyond where I am right now based on a perception the grass will be greener on the other side.

But, is it really greener, more lush and satisfying? Will it really give me more happiness and peace?

Yesterday, swollen and red mosquito bites covered my torso, legs and buttocks looking like polka dots. I felt extremely irritable and restless.

When I feel out of sorts, I ask myself what I am I feeling, and what is it really about? Sure, I might feel irritable about itchy mosquito bites, but what is it in my life that is really irritating me?

If the answer does not come immediately, which sometimes it does in the form of intuition, I refer to Inna Segals book, The Secret Language of Your Body: The Essential Guide to Healing to help guide my answer.

I personally love this book and always find it accurate in providing an answer with what my spirit is trying Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

What Intuition Is and How To Use It

September 27, 2013 in Fear, Intuition by Jill


Last year in Sri Lanka Matt & I had a difficult decision to make; “which country do we travel to next?” Yes, I know you are probably thinking it is an easy answer, but we had ample of ideas with lists of pros and cons for each. One country which ranked highly was the Philippines, due to its surf, pristine beaches and cheapness.

However, something did not feel right. I said to Matt, “I just have a feeling we should not go there”. I could not explain it, nor could I provide any solid negatives to rule it out.

I felt guilty for thinking of saying no, especially with no logical rationale. After a few weeks I finally did say, “no”. Interestingly, the same day I made the decision to rule it out based on a gut feeling, we learnt the Philippines was experiencing their worst typhoons. As time progressed, they experienced more typhoons, deaths, flooding and earthquakes all in the areas and time frame we were considering visiting. Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

Motivation you need to …

September 8, 2013 in Fear, Inspiration by Jill

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“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” – Lao Tzu

I would not be living the life of my dreams if I only dreamt and talked about it.

I recall after my first big trip overseas saying countless times, “I want to travel the world; to explore new cultures, learn other ways of living, and eat yummy food”.

I wanted to go to India and to climb Mt Everest, but the timing always seemed to be an issue. Now I think about it, it was fear that was holding me back. The fear of not having a job, fear of not having enough money, fear of failing, fear of Matt not being there upon my return, or I would change. These were all real for me.

But, there comes a point when you need to put one foot in front of the other.

As mentioned in Secrets to Free Flowing Money, I created a vision board and had the 21st of March 2012 Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

The Man in the Orange G-String

September 1, 2013 in Fear, Self Love by Jill

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“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are” – Don Miguel Ruiz

It is ironic how a person’s greatest fear is ultimately to be showing their true, authentic self. From the day we were born, beliefs and attitudes, through our parents, teachers, media and society have been inflicted upon us. We have been raised by them, therefore taken them on as our own. Most people have become fearful to challenge them, as they live them out day by day, just as it is the norm.

Each day we get up, dress in clothes, and follow the same routine, driving to work, following societies expectations about what to say, and how to act. In Australia, the ‘Australian Dream’ exists, where you buy your own land, with your own house and a big backyard. The thing about this dream is it is the ‘Australian dream’ not your dream. Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

Gratitude Rocks For Sale!

August 28, 2013 in Fear, Law of Attraction by Jill


Can you remember a time when you have been on holidays and dreamt about your wildest fantasies for your life? What did it look like for you? Did you want to leave your job and start your own business? Did you want to travel the world? Did you want more happiness in your life? Or find the perfect partner?

Less than 3 years ago my partner, Matt, and I went on a week’s holiday to Monkey Mia and Exmouth, Western Australia. During that holiday there was a shift in me.

One evening on this particular holiday, Matt and I were walking along the beach discussing our dreams. The beach had sporadic huddles of pebbles, and I remember picking one up. I looked at it intently, noticing its pink colour with white and orange speckles, and feeling its shape. I said, “I am grateful for this Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

Dear Life, I Love You

August 25, 2013 in Fear, Law of Attraction, Self Love by Jill

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Nearly 3 years ago I collected a rock, a gratitude rock, on the beach in Monkey Mia. Since then my life has changed. This rock still resides in my pocket, and every time I touch it I say something I am grateful for. By doing this I create more and more by being grateful for what I already have.

The post below was included as part of a series called ‘Dear Life’ on the blog So Many Places by Kim. Every Monday she posts various peoples thank you’s which is both inspiring and uplifting.


21 August 2013

Hamersely Gorge, Karijini National Park, Western Australia

10:38 am

Dear Life, Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

How to slow a racing mind

August 21, 2013 in Meditation, Self Love by Jill

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Do you feel exhausted despite not doing any physical activity?

If this is the case, you are probably not even aware that your thoughts are running a million miles an hour.

I personally found that when my thoughts are endlessly racing around me, I am tired and fatigued. One of the ways I slow my mind is through meditation.

I am no expert on meditation, but through my practice I am going to explain what it means to me, one of the meditations I use, and the benefits I gain from it.

Mediation to me means being completely within the present moment. By present moment I mean right now, right now, and right now. It is not two seconds ago, or in the future. It is right this present moment.

Meditation to me does not only mean sitting in the lotus position, eyes closed and saying “om”; although this is one type of meditation. Another type is doing anything you love. Read the rest of this entry →

by Jill

From Uninspired and Unloved to Inspired and Loved

August 17, 2013 in Self Love by Jill

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Truthfully the reason there has been a delay in my blog posts is that I have been feeling uninspired myself.

For a week this dragged on, feeling out of sorts, just not my usual self.

One day when out hiking, I was walking alone, ahead of others and enough was enough. Just from the touch of a branch over hanging the path, I unexpectedly surrendered. Tears fell down my cheeks, allowing my misery to be present. I sat under the tree for an unknown amount of time and allowed my emotions to be there; instead of trying to remove them or think logically what the issue was.

Later, after the hike, I sat with my notebook and wrote a letter freely, with no thought, just pen to paper.

In the letter, Dear Life, I realised that I lost all my inspiration to write on my blog as the game had changed. Initially I was writing from my heart, but my thoughts and ego became more prominent. Instead of writing to inspire others to love themselves too, I was now using the blog as a means to gain love Read the rest of this entry →