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What to do when you are judging your flabby tummy: A guide to self-compassion

November 5, 2013 in Self Love by Jill

Jill feeding birds



How many of us are truly compassionate towards ourselves? Some of you may say, “yes I am a compassionate person”, but are you compassionate towards yourself?

Do you show yourself compassion when you are judging your flabby tummy hanging over your jeans, or when you made an inappropriate comment to your friend, or when you didn’t get the job?

Do you give yourself understanding and love when you totally f*#k up? Or do you tell yourself I am worthless, not good enough or stupid?

The negative judgements and criticisms are sometimes soft whispers, and other times they are so loud you can’t hearing anything else. If you are not conscious of them you can start to believe them.

They can make you feel lousy, alone and even self-hatred. Read the rest of this entry →

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The Man in the Orange G-String

September 1, 2013 in Fear, Self Love by Jill

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“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive – the risk to be alive and express what we really are” – Don Miguel Ruiz

It is ironic how a person’s greatest fear is ultimately to be showing their true, authentic self. From the day we were born, beliefs and attitudes, through our parents, teachers, media and society have been inflicted upon us. We have been raised by them, therefore taken them on as our own. Most people have become fearful to challenge them, as they live them out day by day, just as it is the norm.

Each day we get up, dress in clothes, and follow the same routine, driving to work, following societies expectations about what to say, and how to act. In Australia, the ‘Australian Dream’ exists, where you buy your own land, with your own house and a big backyard. The thing about this dream is it is the ‘Australian dream’ not your dream. Read the rest of this entry →

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Dear Life, I Love You

August 25, 2013 in Fear, Law of Attraction, Self Love by Jill

Jill holding sun

Nearly 3 years ago I collected a rock, a gratitude rock, on the beach in Monkey Mia. Since then my life has changed. This rock still resides in my pocket, and every time I touch it I say something I am grateful for. By doing this I create more and more by being grateful for what I already have.

The post below was included as part of a series called ‘Dear Life’ on the blog So Many Places by Kim. Every Monday she posts various peoples thank you’s which is both inspiring and uplifting.


21 August 2013

Hamersely Gorge, Karijini National Park, Western Australia

10:38 am

Dear Life, Read the rest of this entry →

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How to slow a racing mind

August 21, 2013 in Meditation, Self Love by Jill

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Do you feel exhausted despite not doing any physical activity?

If this is the case, you are probably not even aware that your thoughts are running a million miles an hour.

I personally found that when my thoughts are endlessly racing around me, I am tired and fatigued. One of the ways I slow my mind is through meditation.

I am no expert on meditation, but through my practice I am going to explain what it means to me, one of the meditations I use, and the benefits I gain from it.

Mediation to me means being completely within the present moment. By present moment I mean right now, right now, and right now. It is not two seconds ago, or in the future. It is right this present moment.

Meditation to me does not only mean sitting in the lotus position, eyes closed and saying “om”; although this is one type of meditation. Another type is doing anything you love. Read the rest of this entry →

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From Uninspired and Unloved to Inspired and Loved

August 17, 2013 in Self Love by Jill

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Truthfully the reason there has been a delay in my blog posts is that I have been feeling uninspired myself.

For a week this dragged on, feeling out of sorts, just not my usual self.

One day when out hiking, I was walking alone, ahead of others and enough was enough. Just from the touch of a branch over hanging the path, I unexpectedly surrendered. Tears fell down my cheeks, allowing my misery to be present. I sat under the tree for an unknown amount of time and allowed my emotions to be there; instead of trying to remove them or think logically what the issue was.

Later, after the hike, I sat with my notebook and wrote a letter freely, with no thought, just pen to paper.

In the letter, Dear Life, I realised that I lost all my inspiration to write on my blog as the game had changed. Initially I was writing from my heart, but my thoughts and ego became more prominent. Instead of writing to inspire others to love themselves too, I was now using the blog as a means to gain love Read the rest of this entry →

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Do You Accept Yourself?

July 31, 2013 in Self Love by Jill

why fit in when you were born to stand out

Accepting yourself one of the great ways of loving yourself. It means loving everything about you, from your feelings to your body, your mind and your actions. It is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. This is what acceptance means to me.

Accepting yourself means being only you. Don’t be what other people want you to be and don’t be like other people to make them like (or love) you. You are your own unique self. Life would be very boring if we were all the same. Embrace your special talents, your uniqueness and share them with the world. As Dr Suess said, why fit in, you were born to stand out?”

Accepting yourself means to feel the emotions you feel. It doesn’t mean changing them into something they are not. If you are feeling angry, be angry. Don’t try and control your feelings and put them in a box. Instead take yourself away into your bedroom and punch your pillow, or as I do when I am angry or raged, I hop on my bicycle ride until there is no one around and scream to the top of my lungs. During my life I have become proficient at keeping my emotions, particularly the negative ones, in a deep place within me. But now I embrace them. I don’t try and change them into something they are not. Instead I accept them for what they are, and the funny thing is that once you accept them they disappear. Read the rest of this entry →

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How Much Are You Worth?

July 17, 2013 in Affirmations, Self Love by Jill


Through my failures, you can learn the secret


Want to have money freely flow to you?

No more debt?

Want to see extra money in your account?

This is part 1 of a two part series on having more…

Over the past four or so years I have taken an interest in creating more money to do the things I desire. In the past 18 months I have worked less than ever before, and had more money to do the things I love. Curious?

In this post I am going to discuss beliefs surrounding money and how they affect how money comes to you, and how you use it. I found this to have the biggest influence on how money comes to me. But there are other techniques I use to aid its flow which will be in the next post.

Firstly, I became aware of some of the negative thoughts and beliefs I had surrounding money. Some of these may seem familiar to you too, but here are some I used to hold. Read the rest of this entry →

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Vulnerability is the state of Unconditional Love

July 7, 2013 in Affirmations, Fear, Self Love by Jill


Today, I popped in to a shop to book an appointment for acupuncture and massage session, but it bought me something greater than what I was expecting. The lovely lady, Naomi, and I had a nice chat and on my way out she offered me to pick an affirmation from her box for me to ponder on for the day. I felt my way around the box and pulled out,

Vulnerability is the state of Unconditional Love.

Instantly knowing what it was about, I panicked, heart and throat tightened and I made a quick exit from the shop. In an unprepared and unexpected situation, I was reminded of the need to surrender, to be vulnerable, and allow life to flow organically through me. I obviously resisted it as the evidence ran through my body as tension. Read the rest of this entry →

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Self Criticism – Is it Serving You?

July 4, 2013 in Self Love by Jill

Be careful how you are tlaking to yourself because you are listening

As we travel around Australia I pick up nursing contracts at the local hospitals to assist funding our adventures. At the moment I am working full time, and Sunday we had an extremely busy shift with plenty of acute patients – from possible spinal injuries, a baby having a fall, to a dislocated shoulder, to a tree stuck in a patients hand and lots more….

The next day two other nurses and I were discussing the day before, and one of the nurses whom was not working asked the question, “Did you walk away at the end of the day saying to yourself I had a great day and did a good job?” The question definitely made me stop and think. Did I say to myself “well done”, “you did this right”, and “I feel great”? Truth is I didn’t. The thoughts that raced through my brain consisted of “did I do …?” or “I should have done…” and “I did that wrong…” Read the rest of this entry →

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The Start of Loving Myself

June 22, 2013 in Meditation, Self Love by Jill


Have you ever noticed when you love yourself everything in your life is easy? Your dreams come to fruition, your work is great, your body is fit and healthy, and you are buzzing with energy and full of life. Your relationships with your friends, colleagues, family and partner are full of love and positive engagements. I realised recently that when I unconditionally love myself everything in my life works out perfectly to the point I am using the word ‘magic’. My smiles are endless, and people are commenting on how happy I am or ask where they too can get some of it. I sing silly songs, and do little dances. I laugh and feel like a small child. I achieve goals by just ‘doing it’ and seeing obstacles or challenges as opportunities. Read the rest of this entry →