Is the grass really greener on the other side?

October 2, 2013 in Gratitude, Present Moment by Jill

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I know the feeling too well, seeking beyond where I am right now based on a perception the grass will be greener on the other side.

But, is it really greener, more lush and satisfying? Will it really give me more happiness and peace?

Yesterday, swollen and red mosquito bites covered my torso, legs and buttocks looking like polka dots. I felt extremely irritable and restless.

When I feel out of sorts, I ask myself what I am I feeling, and what is it really about? Sure, I might feel irritable about itchy mosquito bites, but what is it in my life that is really irritating me?

If the answer does not come immediately, which sometimes it does in the form of intuition, I refer to Inna Segals book, The Secret Language of Your Body: The Essential Guide to Healing to help guide my answer.

I personally love this book and always find it accurate in providing an answer with what my spirit is trying to communicate to me via my body.

Since the answer did not come when I asked what my irritation and restlessness was about I sought help, and an answer was given.

For itching Inna Segal says, “Not liking what you are doing or where you are. Itching to get away. Easily irritated and annoyed…”

This hit the nail on the head. I was sick of the hot weather, lack of swimming water holes, feeling exhausted from constantly moving from place to place, and all I want to be is be on the beach, surf every morning and take this blog to the next level.

Becoming aware of what my real issue was about I stopped and considered where I was right now. I became present.

In that moment, I was in a beautiful part of northern Western Australia, Lake Argyle, the largest manmade lake in the southern hemisphere. I was surrounded by water, both a huge lake and an infinity pool. I was cooler than I had been for weeks. The clouds covered the sun every afternoon lowering the temperature slightly.

We also had a completely dead battery that limited our travels. We therefore could not move in two days. I had time to relax as much as I desired by the pool.

As a result of a dead battery, a new friendship was formed with another couple. The friendship blossomed so much so we spent an entire day from 5 am to 9 pm on a boat, jumping off cliffs into Lake Argle and making camping pizzas.

cliff jumping

This got me thinking, is the grass really greener on the other side?

By becoming present and seeing my life in that moment for what it really was I realised things are not as bad as they seem.  Had I not become aware of my desire to be elsewhere I would have had a miserable, stale day with my mosquito bites driving me nuts!

Another example is working as a nurse. I complained countless times about how I didn’t like my job. I hated the irregularity of shifts, high stress, and politics of the workplace. But I loved and strived on the excitement, human interaction and the fast paced nature of the job.  Was it really as bad as what I thought it was?

Think about an aspect of your life right now that you are unhappy with? What is something, just one thing, even so small, that you like about it? Now, can you find something else? And another?


When you find the things, whether big or small, you enjoy you will find acceptance and contentment in your situation. My guess (and secret knowing) is that the universe will then give you what you want without you having to try. When you stop wanting and trying to get to the greener grass you will find contentment and peace.

After this realisation I thoroughly enjoyed my day, and am still happy to be where I am in the stinking heat by a pool while our car is getting sorted.